In 2012, Anne-Marie Slaughter’s Atlantic article “Why women still can’t have it all” set the internet on fire. She wrote it, she said, to dispel the myth that it was possible for women to have both a high-flying career and family responsibilities. To say women could have it all was “simply airbrushing reality”, Slaughter wrote.

Her piece resonated with many mothers struggling to juggle several priorities. But some were quick to point out that fathers felt exactly the same pressures. As men’s magazine Esquire noted: “Entirely lost in the debate is the growing strain of work-life balance on men.” While that article ignored the biological pressures – pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding – that weigh more heavily on women, it did raise an interesting point.

A new study from the Pew Research Center adds weight to this argument: both men and women are struggling to have it all. More than half of respondents (56%) said they found it either somewhat or very difficult to balance the responsibilities of their job with the responsibilities of their family.

Having it all

Source: Pew Research Center

A closer look at the results shows that full-time working mothers do seem to find the balancing act more difficult than fathers: 1 in 5 women said they found it “very difficult”, compared with 12% of men.

Pew also found a significant difference in responses based on education level: 70% of mothers with a college or post-graduate degree said they found it difficult (very or somewhat), compared to 52% of those without one. The same education divide was found among men: 61% of college graduates said they found it difficult, compared to 47% of non-college graduates.

The findings suggest the problem might be less about women, and more about the type of work people are doing. It’s something Slaughter recognized in Unfinished business: women, men, work, family, a book that followed up and built on her 2012 article “Perhaps the problem is not with women; perhaps it is with work”.

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Author: Stéphanie Thomson is an editor at the World Economic Forum

Image: Man makes dinner for his son and daughter. REUTERS/Elijah Nouvelage.